Yesterday, bumped into a friend from highschool and she invited me to join the rest of our former classmates to play badminton on weekends. Before, I'm an antisocial psychopat. I've been dreading on reunions like these. Not that we don't have a nice experience before during highschool, but on one common question i always encounter during meet-ups:"Are you still single?"
Yes, and those former classmates of mine are all married, with kids. Such question is expected for i'm just 3 months away from being 3-0, and they're quite aware i'm into a long time relationship. Since I'm currently in the Philippines, being single and in a relationship at 30 bothers people around me. Its a norm to our society for people of legal age to be married, except for priests and nuns. Especially at weddings, getting ridiculed is normal, as they would always tell me I'm next to get married. As if not so rude enough to give them back the same joke during funerals, I'll be doomed.
Not all people understand staying single is a choice, and some on a noble reason. For instance is my Aunt, who nursed for our grandparents until their dawn. She also took care us when we got orphaned. Wasn't she any better than a married mother who left her children on the street dying of hunger? That's what other people didn't see. We also have relatives that got married to wrong people just resulted to infidelity and violence at home. Being single is a matter of being responsible and fair to your future offspring not to give them a life they dont deserve.
However, for me, I'm not on staying single forever. Its just that, me and my BF are not into a hurry. We don't bother on a single piece of paper, but on the love that prevails even after countless years. I simply can't get tied down just mainly because everybody else is into it, marriage is sacred and it does takes two to tango. And yes, I understand I have a biological clock to run after for bearing a kid, but it's definitely not a primary reason for me to tie a knot, for I dont mind adopting one. For now, I'm enjoying sleeping and waking up late, without getting on toe every minute for the baby and the piled laundry, for that would be another chapter.
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ReplyDeletedeepth thought! love and marriage are something separated and you explained things so rasional...love it. we must have one dream at least in our life, but do not live with dreaming! Bravo, mi amigo-i'm also single and very very happy ;) *ISTI*
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ReplyDeleteyou are as well fabulous my dear.
There's no reason to rush, as it will happen one day in the right time and place, and when God call the two people to take the oath to be one and live together and forever. What is important for now is to ensure that you love, understand and respect your partner. Be prepared for everything, emotionally,physically and of course financially while waiting for the most precious moments in your life to happen.
ReplyDeleteMy beautiful Angel is right; we're not bothering on a single piece of paper as we would like to ensure that we will never be apart again one day because of one from us needs to work abroad to live and survive. What is the essence of marriage if you and your partner are not living together in one house?
Anyway, don't worry, we will surprise you an invitation telling you the right time and place to witness our vows. ;)
-Bong
The Art of Marriage by Wifred Arlan Peterson
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I LOVE YOU" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humour.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow old.
It is common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationsip in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right person, it is being the right partner.